Healing After the Hurt: Is Restoration Possible?

Yes—restoration is possible. But it’s not about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about choosing to heal with truth, tenderness, and time.

By Coach Sheila Faye

There are wounds in marriage that go deeper than words. Moments you can’t unhear. Disappointments that still sting. Maybe it was a betrayal, a broken promise, or years of being emotionally dismissed.

And now you’re wondering: "Can we come back from this?”

Let me tell you what I’ve learned after 52+ years of marriage and countless conversations with wives in pain:

Yes—restoration is possible. But it’s not about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about choosing to heal with truth, tenderness, and time.

💔 Why Time Alone Doesn’t Heal All Wounds

There’s a lie many wives believe: "If I just wait long enough, the pain will go away. "But time doesn’t heal what you’re still carrying silently.

Unspoken pain turns into bitterness. Avoided conversations turn into walls. And eventually, you’re “together,” but disconnected.

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” —Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

God doesn’t just patch things up—He binds wounds. That means He gets close, covers the tender places, and walks you through the healing.

🌿 Here Are 3 Steps Toward Real Restoration

1. Acknowledge the Hurt Honestly

You can’t heal what you won’t name. Whether the wound is from a single event or years of neglect, it’s okay to say, "This hurt me.”

Restoration begins when truth replaces silence.

2. Choose to Heal—Not Just Move On

Healing isn’t stuffing your emotions down. It’s choosing to let God work in the places you’ve been avoiding.

That may mean counseling, coaching, or even a hard conversation with your spouse. It may also mean forgiving someone who hasn’t apologized.

“Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” —Colossians 3:13

Forgiveness doesn’t excuse the hurt—it releases you from the hold it has on your heart.

3. Rebuild Connection, Brick by Brick

Don’t expect instant closeness. Restoration is a slow, sacred process.

It looks like:

• Daily trust-building through consistency

• Relearning how to talk and really listen

• Inviting God into your emotions, not just your actions

And some days, it looks like just not giving up.

💬 You Don’t Have to Heal Alone

Wife, your pain is real. But so is God’s ability to redeem it.

Restoration doesn’t mean everything goes back to how it used to be. It means something new is built—stronger, deeper, and anchored in grace.

📞 If your heart is ready to heal and you’re unsure where to start, schedule your free discovery call with me at www.coachsheilafaye.com. Let's walk through this together—because healing is possible, and you are worth it.

Even the deepest hurt can be the soil for your greatest growth.