From Roommates to Soulmates: Rebuilding Intimacy One Step at a Time

Intimacy is not a lost art; it’s a sacred space—and it’s still available to you.

By Coach Sheila Faye

You love him. You live with him. But somewhere along the way… the closeness faded.

Now, instead of soulmates, you feel like roommates—coexisting under the same roof but missing each other in the ways that matter most.

If that’s you, I want you to know something important: You are not alone. And you’re not stuck.

It’s possible to rebuild what was lost. But it doesn’t happen overnight—it happens one intentional step at a time.

💔 When Intimacy Slips Away

Intimacy isn’t just physical. It’s emotional safety. It’s being fully known and fully loved. It’s those moments when you feel seen without saying a word.

But life happens. Children. Careers. Conflict. Disappointments. Silent seasons.

And before you know it, touch feels distant, conversation feels dry, and your heart starts to shut down—not out of hate, but out of hurt.

“Come, my beloved, let us go out into the fields… There I will give you, my love.” —Song of Solomon 7:11-12 (NIV)

That verse reminds us—intimacy isn’t automatic. It must be pursued.

🌱 Here Are 3 Simple Ways to Rebuild Intimacy:

1. Reconnect Through Shared Rituals

Rituals are small, repeatable moments that help rebuild trust and familiarity.

• A morning prayer together

• A 10-minute check-in at night

• A weekly walk or drive with no distractions

Don’t wait for grand gestures. Intimacy grows through consistent presence.

2. Use Gentle Honesty to Express Your Needs

Instead of saying, “We’re just roommates now, "Try: “I miss feeling close to you, and I want to find our way back.”

Start with one vulnerable statement. It might feel scary—but your honesty opens a door.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt.” —Colossians 4:6

3. Bring God into the Journey

There’s no better intimacy builder than spiritual unity. Even praying together for 60 seconds invites God into your emotional space.

Ask Him to soften hearts, remove walls, and restore the connection only He can rebuild.

💬 You Don’t Have to Settle for Less Than Intimacy

Sis, just because things feel distant now doesn’t mean they’re doomed. God is in the business of restoration. And you can move from roommates to soulmates again—not by pressure, but by partnership with Him.

📞 If you’re ready to reconnect on a deeper level, I’d love to support you. Schedule your free discovery call today at www.coachsheilafaye.com. Let’s walk through the walls and build a bond that doesn’t just survive—it thrives.