God’s Love Language: Why Knowing Yours Can Save Your Marriage

“We love because He first loved us.” —1 John 4:19 (NIV)

If you’ve ever felt like you’re loving your husband with everything you’ve got—but it’s still not landing—you’re not alone.

Many wives pour themselves out daily only to be met with silence, frustration, or emotional distance. You’re speaking love... but he’s not hearing it.

Here’s the truth: sometimes, love isn’t the problem—translation is.

And the deeper truth? Before you can effectively give or receive love in marriage, you must understand how God wired your heart to love.

💞 Why Love Languages Matter

Dr. Gary Chapman’s concept of the five love languages (Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch) opened up a new level of understanding for many couples.

But what we often miss is this: Your love language is deeply tied to how you were created by God, and how you feel emotionally safe.

When your love language is constantly unmet, you don’t just feel frustrated…You feel unseen. Unheard. Unloved.

“We love because He first loved us.” —1 John 4:19 (NIV)

Understanding God’s love for you gives you a foundation for how you give and receive love with your spouse.

🧭 Step One: Identify Your Love Language

Before you can help your husband love you well, you need clarity.Take a moment and ask:

• What makes me feel deeply valued?

• When do I feel closest to my husband?

• What unmet need causes the most resentment?

Your answers will help you identify what your soul craves most in love—and what you may not be clearly expressing.

💡 Bonus tip: There’s no shame in needing what you need. God wired you that way on purpose.

🗣️ Step Two: Communicate Without Criticizing

Instead of saying, "You never do anything for me,”

Try: "I feel most loved when we spend quality time together. Can we make that a priority this week?”

It’s not about blame—it’s about clarity. You’re not asking for more, you’re asking for understanding.

🙌 Step Three: Ask God to Fill the Gaps

Even the most loving husband won’t meet every need all the time.

That’s where God steps in. When your emotional tank runs low, His love is the well that never runs dry.

“The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love.’” —Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV)

Let God be your anchor when your husband falls short—because He never does.

💬 Love Doesn’t Have to Feel Like a Mystery

Wife, understanding your love language—and your husband’s—isn’t just a relationship tool. It’s a spiritual strategy. It brings clarity, connection, and compassion back into your home.

📞 Ready to go deeper? Let’s talk. Schedule your free discovery call today at www.coachsheilafaye.com. Together, we’ll map out how to communicate your needs with grace—and reconnect in a way that feels real, respectful, and God-led.

Because when love is translated clearly, healing begins.